Three words. Every first responder, soldier, and high performer in a demanding job says them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They’re also the first symptom of what I call the EGO Syndrome. EGO \u2014 not in the sense of arrogance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
“I got this” isn’t confidence. Not always. Sometimes it’s the sound of a door closing \u2014 the sound of someone deciding, quietly, that asking for help is a risk they can’t afford.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here’s the part nobody tells you at the academy, in basic, on shift: the people who “got this” the longest are often the ones who go down hardest. Not because they’re weak. Because they never practiced the muscle of asking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In my research, I’ve found that resilience has become a weaponized word. We celebrate being resilient and chastise vulnerability \u2014 but these two words were never meant to be separate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So here’s the reframe I use with every high performer I coach:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
“I got this” and “I have got me” are not the same sentence.<\/strong> The first is a performance for the room. The second is a private, honest check-in: am I actually okay, or am I just still standing?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Strength and self-sufficiency are not the same thing.<\/strong> Strength includes knowing your own limits. Self-sufficiency, pushed far enough, just means you fail alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Asking for help is not the opposite of “I got this.”<\/strong> It’s what makes “I got this” true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You don’t owe anyone a performance. You owe yourself an honest answer.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Three words. Every first responder, soldier, and high performer in a demanding job says them. They’re also the first symptom of what I call the EGO Syndrome. EGO \u2014 not in the sense of arrogance. “I got this” isn’t confidence. Not always. Sometimes it’s the sound of a door closing \u2014 the sound of someone […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":111,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-431","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\n